Small Town Living, They Talk to Each Other

photo fo two people, a child and an adult looking at a sunset over the ocean

Life was a lot slower and simpler in the fifties and sixties.

Written by Gary Wonning

Continuously, people, especially those from the east coast criticize people living in small town USA, particularity the Midwest. One of their major complaints is that small town people know everyone’s business and life story. 

So what, what have you done wrong that you don”t want anyone to know about? 

So what, if everyone does know, you are only human, humans all do things they would be better off if they haven’t done them, everyone else in your little town has done the same. 

In most small towns people have a genuine concern for their fellow neighbor and even though they may occasionally gossip about them, when the chips are down, they will pitch in and help each other when those in the larger cities could care less about their neighbor and leave the helping to someone else. 

I always hear about how people in cities don’t even know their neighbors, how is that working for you? Your next door neighbor can be suffering some life threatening catastrophe and you don’t even know. You can be having a major issue in your life, and there is no one there to help. 

How comforting is that. 

No wonder so many people need a shrink these days. 

One of my favorite movie scenes , is the scene in Crocodile Dundee where Mick and Sue are walking down a New York street and Sue is telling Mick how great her psychiatrist is. 

Mick has that deer in the headlights look and asked why she goes to a psychiatrist, Sue replies, “So I can have some one to talk to.”

Mick is puzzled and asks, “Isn’t that what a mate is for?”  

It’s so simple, most in a small town realize this and there is always someone willing to lend an ear and listen. They may not be able to help, but they will listen.

Many times that is all we need is for someone to listen. 

It seems to me that talking to a mate is a lot simpler, easier and less expensive than it is to hire someone to listen to you, to me that sounds rather preposterous. 

Sometimes , obviously, a professional’s advice is needed, but many times, all that is needed is an attentive ear. 

How many lives could be changed if someone would just listen, someone who knows your life situation rather than an over paid shrink whose only advise is derived  from a  book that  told him how to respond.

To me that sounds impersonal and cookie cutter. 

I have lived in small towns and larger cities and although I enjoy the conveniences of a larger city, I will take the friendliness of a small town any time. 

Small towns are like family, many times they have lived in the same community for generations. They know each others history  and like a family, they quarrel, make up and lend a helping hand when needed. 

photo of a distinguished older gentleman

Wisdom lost through the ages, common sense is no longer common.

Gary has been a writer/photographer for over thirty years. Specializing in nature and landscape photography, while studying native cultures.

His travels have taken him to most of the United States, as well as Australia, Belize, Egypt and the Canary Islands.

He has studied the Mayan culture of Central America and the aborigines of

Australia. Photography has given him the opportunity to observe life in various parts of the world.

He has observed that many of the forgotten cultures had spiritual beliefs that were stronger than ours in modern times.

In technology, we have made advances far superior to those that came before us, but, we have lagged behind in gaining or maintaining our spiritual knowledge.

For us to advance as the human race, we need to combine the spiritual knowledge of those that came before us, not only that of the ancients but the knowledge of our direct ancestors as well, with the technical knowledge we have today for us to propel into the twenty-first century and beyond.

He has published several books about his adventures, and is available for book signings, and speaking engagements.

For more information, please consult his website,www.journeysthrulife.com.

 

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The Advantages Of Small Town Living

photo of a distinguished older gentleman

Wisdom lost through the ages, common sense is no longer common.

Written by Gary Wonning

Many years ago, a very wise person told me that I would eventually travel extensively and would learn many things. She also told me to never forget where I came from, to never forget what was important in life.

At the time, I didn’t understand what she meant.  I grew up and was still living in a small town in southeastern Indiana. It seemed rather insignificant to me, about the only thing there were corn fields and basketball hoops.

There were very few of what we now consider the modern necessities of life, restaurants, theater, etc, the finer things in life. It took several years for me to finally realize  that wise person was correct.

Many say that people who live in small towns are narrow minded , old fashioned, stubborn, and many of the various negative traits we attach to people who are different than ourselves.

Having lived in both communities, large cities and small towns, I have found it doesn’t matter where you live or how you grow up, there are narrow minded, stubborn people on both sides of the aisle, conservative or liberal, black, white, male female,rich, poor, it doesn’t matter . Often times the ones claiming someone else is narrow minded is the one who is the most narrow minded.

Having said that, there are many advantages to living in a small town.

The most important things in life are the small things, and many believe  living in a small town is a small thing , home to small minds.

Living in a small community naturally keeps you closer to the land, closer to nature.  In this world, many adhere to the American Indian philosophy that says we are losing our way because people no longer live close to the land or nature.  I believe this is true, and it is awfully hard if not impossible to live close to the land when living in a ten story high rise in the middle of a large city, sure you can go to a park and co-mingle with a thousand other people, it isn’t the same as being in the middle of nowhere.

The most important things in life are friends and family, and the times we spend with them.

This culture is most likely to be cultivated in a smaller community, where people live close to each other, and have time and actually take time to cultivate these relationships.

My high school graduating class had a total of fifty-three members.  For a large part, we have remained close over the years, even though many of us now live many  miles apart in different areas of the country.

I still consider them to be some of my closest friends, that’s something most who grew up in larger communities can say, many can’t even remember one person or have seen them since their high school graduation.

While it is true we can and often do make friends along the way, they don’t replace the ones we grew up with and have the most connections.

I still have lifelong friends in that small community even though I don’t get back there as much as I would like.  Regardless of when I would walk into the Napoleon Tavern or the Osgood Grub Company, I will find lifelong friends.

That is priceless. 

Gary has been a writer/photographer for over thirty years. Specializing in nature and landscape photography, while studying native cultures.

His travels have taken him to most of the United States, as well as Australia, Belize, Egypt and the Canary Islands.

He has studied the Mayan culture of Central America and the aborigines of

Australia. Photography has given him the opportunity to observe life in various parts of the world.

He has observed that many of the forgotten cultures had spiritual beliefs that were stronger than ours in modern times.

In technology, we have made advances far superior to those that came before us, but, we have lagged behind in gaining or maintaining our spiritual knowledge.

For us to advance as the human race, we need to combine the spiritual knowledge of those that came before us, not only that of the ancients but the knowledge of our direct ancestors as well, with the technical knowledge we have today for us to propel into the twenty-first century and beyond.

He has published several books about his adventures.

For more information, please consult his website,www.journeysthrulife.com.

 

 

Applying Safe Driving Skills to Everyday Living

 

Written by Gary Wonning

The fifth and final principle to safe driving is to Make Sure They See You

To make sure they see you; Communicate in traffic with your horn, lights, and signals to establish eye contact with motorists and pedestrians.

By paying attention to your surroundings you can Be reasonably sure of other people’s intentions and act or react accordingly.

 To see and be seen always make eye contact if possible. 

If you don’t believe they see you or realize they are in your traffic path Honk horn (twice), Turn on/off headlights, or if they are following you, Tap brakes several times in succession.

And last but not least, remember that long lost tradition, Use turn signals.

In living life, as well as driving, Make sure everyone around you is aware of your actions and desires, as well as you of theirs. We can’t negotiate the highways of life if we are unsure of what the people in our circle of influence and ourselves in particular want, need or will do.

It certainly will not solve or prevent  all our problems, however , when challenges do arise,applying the five seeing habits of safe driving to our lives can and will enable you to negotiate the highway of life with a lot less stress and disappointment.

Safe Driving is a way of life.

capiture of a ups driver making a delivery

A UPS driver making a delivery to a beautiful blonde

Gary has been a writer/photographer for over thirty years. Specializing in nature and landscape photography, while studying native cultures.

His travels have taken him to most of the United States, as well as Australia, Belize, Egypt and the Canary Islands.

He has studied the Mayan culture of Central America and the aborigines of

Australia. Photography has given him the opportunity to observe life in various parts of the world.

He has observed that many of the forgotten cultures had spiritual beliefs that were stronger than ours in modern times.

In technology, we have made advances far superior to those that came before us, but, we have lagged behind in gaining or maintaining our spiritual knowledge.

For us to advance as the human race, we need to combine the spiritual knowledge of those that came before us, not only that of the ancients but the knowledge of our direct ancestors as well, with the technical knowledge we have today for us to propel into the twenty-first century and beyond.

He has published several books about his adventures.

For more information, please consult his website,www.journeysthrulife.com.

Applying the Fourth Safe Driving Skill To Every Day Living

 

The fourth tip on how safe driving techniques can improve your life.

Leave Yourself An Out

  When driving: Always be prepared. Surround your vehicle with space in front and on at least one side to escape conflict.

Leave a 1 car -length space cushion between you and the car in front of you at stop signs and intersections, (check your mirrors to make sure the person behind you is stopping, if not use up your space cushion, move forward slowly or change lanes if possible.)

If the person in front of you stops suddenly, stop as soon as possible, but if you have time , check your mirror to make sure the person behind you can stop before hitting you, if not use up your space cushion to give him as much room as possible.

Whenever you hit someone from the rear, it is automatically your fault, a driver needs to have control of his, or her vehicle at all times. There are no excuses for rear ending someone, regardless of how quickly they stop. 

Always use your turn signals

Stay at least 2 seconds behind the car in front of you(1 car length for every 10 MPH.)

3 seconds in adverse weather

Slow down in heavy rain, your vehicle will hydroplane if you go to fast.

Every vehicle is different, vehicles with wider tires will hydroplane quicker than vehicles with narrower tires.

Check other drivers and vehicles for movement, watch drivers heads for movement, remember, the wheels of a vehicle are the first thing to start moving, check them.

As in driving, in the game of life, Always be prepared and have a plan B, many times at the last minute our plans dissolve and one needs an alternate plan of action to avoid possible disaster and heartache. If life changes and you have no escape route, it is you who will pay the consequences.

capiture of a ups driver making a delivery

A UPS driver making a delivery to a beautiful blonde

Gary has been a writer/photographer for over thirty years. Specializing in nature and landscape photography, while studying native cultures.

His travels have taken him to most of the United States, as well as Australia, Belize, Egypt and the Canary Islands.

He has studied the Mayan culture of Central America and the aborigines of

Australia. Photography has given him the opportunity to observe life in various parts of the world.

He has observed that many of the forgotten cultures had spiritual beliefs that were stronger than ours in modern times.

In technology, we have made advances far superior to those that came before us, but, we have lagged behind in gaining or maintaining our spiritual knowledge.

For us to advance as the human race, we need to combine the spiritual knowledge of those that came before us, not only that of the ancients but the knowledge of our direct ancestors as well, with the technical knowledge we have today for us to propel into the twenty-first century and beyond.

He has published several books about his adventures.

For more information, please consult his website,www.journeysthrulife.com.

How To Apply Safe Driving Habits To Everyday Living

capiture of a ups driver making a delivery

A UPS driver making a delivery to a beautiful blonde

The third principle to safe driving is to Keep Your Eyes Moving

 Scan- Don’t stare. Constantly shift your eyes while driving, Active eyes keep up with changing traffic conditions.

Check all mirrors every 5-8 seconds

Scan with your eyes every 2 seconds

Never stare at an object for more than 2 seconds, not even at Brad Pitt or Angeline Joline!

Eliminate eye holding patterns

Adjust speed to existing conditions, speed up or slow down

Driving comes first, eating , changing radio, A/C, talking on cell phone, etc, all come secondary.

If you get tired, turn up radio, turn up A/C, sing to yourself, or better yet pull over and take a break.

Applying this principle to our daily lives we need to remember to always remain vigilant, don’t get stuck in  a rut and neglect to pay proper attention to what is going on around you. The business of life comes first , keep from getting distracted.

Stay alert to the possibilities of what could go “wrong” and be prepared for them.

none of us are immune from hard times and disaster striking at any moment.

Gary has been a writer/photographer for over thirty years. Specializing in nature and landscape photography, while studying native cultures.

His travels have taken him to most of the United States, as well as Australia, Belize, Egypt and the Canary Islands.

He has studied the Mayan culture of Central America and the aborigines of

Australia. Photography has given him the opportunity to observe life in various parts of the world.

He has observed that many of the forgotten cultures had spiritual beliefs that were stronger than ours in modern times.

In technology, we have made advances far superior to those that came before us, but, we have lagged behind in gaining or maintaining our spiritual knowledge.

For us to advance as the human race, we need to combine the spiritual knowledge of those that came before us, not only that of the ancients but the knowledge of our direct ancestors as well, with the technical knowledge we have today for us to propel into the twenty-first century and beyond.

He has published several books about his adventures.

For more information, please consult his website,www.journeysthrulife.com.

The Five Safe Driving Habits Also Apply To Everyday Living

capiture of a ups driver making a delivery

A UPS driver making a delivery to a beautiful blonde

The second rule to safe driving is to  Get The Big Picture

You d this by maintain the proper following distance so you can comfortably determine the true hazards around your vehicle and don’t tailgate others.

Be aware of all objects and obstacles(dogs, cats ,deer, ladders in the road , etc.) scan other vehicles to be aware of things that might fall off into your path. The road isn’t going anywhere, once you know where it is, observe things that might move into your line of travel.

Scan 1-2 city blocks ahead in town and ½ mile on highways, expressways & country roads

Scan sidewalk to sidewalk in town

Fence row to fence row in the country

Be aware of all areas and all things around your vehicle

Back only when necessary and back before parking when you are more aware of your surroundings and those things that can move into your line of travel.

When backing , double check to make sure no one or nothing is behind your vehicle, get out of the vehicle and physically check if necessary. This can be done while walking to your vehicle.

Applying these rules to life we learn to maintain a safe distance between us and the obstacles we may face. We need to be aware of all challenges that may come our way as far ahead of time as possible so the proper actions may be taken to lessen the effects of a possible problem, while only looking back to remember and cherish where we came from and how far we have traveled.

Gary has been a writer/photographer for over thirty years. Specializing in nature and landscape photography, while studying native cultures.

His travels have taken him to most of the United States, as well as Australia, Belize, Egypt and the Canary Islands.

He has studied the Mayan culture of Central America and the aborigines of

Australia. Photography has given him the opportunity to observe life in various parts of the world.

He has observed that many of the forgotten cultures had spiritual beliefs that were stronger than ours in modern times.

In technology, we have made advances far superior to those that came before us, but, we have lagged behind in gaining or maintaining our spiritual knowledge.

For us to advance as the human race, we need to combine the spiritual knowledge of those that came before us, not only that of the ancients but the knowledge of our direct ancestors as well, with the technical knowledge we have today for us to propel into the twenty-first century and beyond.

He has published several books about his adventures.

For more information, please consult his website,www.journeysthrulife.com.

You Know You’re a Redneck When:

 

You Know You’re a Redneck When…(Part 3)

Your lifetime goal is to own a fireworks stand..

You sit on your roof at Christmas time hoping to fill your deer quota..

You have a complete set of salad bowls and they all say Cool Whip on the side..

The biggest city you’ve ever been to is Walmart..

Your working TV sits on top of your non-working TV..

You thought the Unibomber was a wrestler..

You’ve used your ironing board as a buffet table..

You think a quarter horse is that ride in front of K-Mart..

Your neighbors think you’re a detective because a cop always brings you home..

A tornado hits your neighborhood and does a $100,000 worth of improvement..

You’ve used a toilet brush as a back scratcher..

You missed 5th grade graduation because you had jury duty..

You think fast food is hitting a deer at 65 mph..

Somebody tells you that you’ve got something in your teeth and you take them out to see what it is.

Growing up on a dairy farm in southeastern Indiana, Gary traveled very little until midlife, when the opportunity became available to him.

photo fo two people, a child and an adult looking at a sunset over the ocean

Life was a lot slower and simpler in the fifties and sixties.

Grabbing his camera and a bag full of equipment, he began his vision quest traveling to most areas of the United States and several countries abroad.

Along the way he collected several thousand photographs that he wants to share with everyone.

http://www.travelnsnap.com

Gary decided the best way to accomplish his goal was to publish photo documentaries on the various areas of the world he has visited.

What will follow will be several photography books, who knows how many will wind up in his collection.

To contact Gary:

journeysthrulife@gmail.com.

http://www.journeysthrulife.com.