There Are No Excuses

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Wisdom lost through the ages, common sense is no longer common.

Written by Gary Wonning

Last night, meeting with some friends, and some new friends, the conversation turned to all the sexual harassment claims in the news. 

One of the men made a statement that back in the day, women were afraid to speak up because they were intimidated because their job may hang in the balance.

I don’t see it that way, maybe some were, but I learned, as many of my female friends learned, there were no excuses for your behavior, and your reaction to bad behavior. 

You stood up for what you believed in, regardless of the consequences. I know many women who never put up with this kind of behavior and stood their ground, and came out winners because of it. 

If I did something wrong,  or someone I knew did something wrong, the first words out of our parents mouth was,”You know better than that. “

There were no excuses.

In most cases I did know better, and if I didn’t know better, I knew better  at that particular instant.

  I had just messed up, or had a memory lapse. 

In either case, my mom’s response soon dispelled any memory lapse I may have had, and the chances of another memory lapse coming anytime soon were greatly diminished.

Over the last several decades, many of us have forgotten the valuable lessons taught us by our ancestors, it is time to begin remembering them.

Our ancestors taught these lessons for a reason, look at the condition the country is in because we have forgotten.

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Instead we have become way too forgiving while on our path to political correctness and trying to create a kinder gentler society.

We have to stop forgiving bad behavior and people’s reaction to bad behavior. We learn through our mistakes, or we are supposed to . When we excuse people for making bad decisions, and reacting incorrectly, it only makes the situation worse, and no one learns anything. 

The only way to learn is to own up to our mistakes and learn from them. To excuse them, or rationalize does nothing and in fact destroys the persons confidence in themselves, they soon begin to realize they don’t have to be responsible for anything. They can always just explain away bad behavior, or bad choices. 

Instead, we need to once again learn how to stand up for what we believe in, regardless of the consequences, in the process, we will learn how to solve our own problems without resorting to relying on others who will not always be there to support us when we need it. 

When someone does us wrong, which they will, it is our duty to ourselves and others to do the right thing, not only do we learn, the perpetrator learns a valuable lesson also.  

Gary has been a writer/photographer for over thirty years. Specializing in nature and landscape photography, as well as studying native cultures.

His travels have taken him to most of the United States, as well as Australia, Belize, Egypt and the Canary Islands.

He has studied the Mayan culture of Central America as well as the aborigines of Australia. Photography has given him the opportunity to observe life in various parts of the world.

He has published several books about his adventures.

For more information, please consult his website,

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